I had the privilege of leading worship at a conference for worship leaders this morning. It was awesome. When the session ended and I was milling around talking to people, one person told me thanks and then proceeded to critique my key choices for the songs I’d led.
Not “Great job! We were very blessed to have you!” Or even a “Nice guitar man, is that a Gibson?”
Nope. Just a comment on my key choices. Too low for him because he’s a tenor. (At 8:30 am, nobody is a singer and I always err on the side of too low.)
I’ll most likely never see that guy again. The only thing that he will ever speak into my life is criticism. He had a great chance to say something nice, something encouraging, and he blew it.
I do that all the freaking time. I miss out on opportunities to be encouraging, give a compliment, put someone else’s needs before my own, and I blow it.
Proverbs 16 says “Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones.”
Positive is better than negative.
Positive beats negative 100 times out of 100.
Positive words change the speaker and the listener.
Positive words bring healing, hope, and life.
Don’t miss those opportunities that you have every day to speak encouraging, positive words to someone. Do it and watch it change you and the people around you.